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@lolly wrote:
You seem well grounded and i have no doubt from reading your posts that you have all the qualities required to set your girls up with the best start possible. To be compasionate, patient and reliable seems to do the trick, and my instinct tells me you are all those things. xx
thing is lolly its the age old story , most of us can give advice, speak wise words etc but when it comes down to our real inner selves are we so wise?
we fortunately are completely aware of what is right and whats wrong and well able to put it into practice , how many of us though really let ours ‘masks’ slip? how many of us really trust and share what is really going on in our inner sanctuary?
one thing ive learned since joining a chat room and message boards is everyone has a story, some have led charmed lives, some have lived through some horrific things, some continue to do so, but most of all people are just human beings. g
awd lolly so many twists and turns to your original post, twisting and turning through so much, still a great thought provoking post tho xx
now i’ve lulled you into a false sense of security…………………………….be afraid :twisted:
@lolly wrote:
I agree with what you say cath but feel its a game of russian roulette when a parent knowingly takes a chance with a childs emotional outcome. At some level not having emotional intelligence makes it excusable to an extent, but i guess i am talking about the ones that see what they are doing and yet continue.
Does everyone deserve a child? BIG question – i agree a child is a gift but what of the parents that do not recognise this and fail to give the foundation.
Thanks for taking the time to respond cath xsometimes the child of those parents turn out to be far and away better citizens and give much more to this society.
I dont know why some become parents, why when it is clear they cannot cope nor treat the child as they should be.
I dont have the answers aobut the ones that see what they are doing and yet continue, as a parent some of the attrocities that some children have to endure break my heart, and I have found that sometimes i have to detach just a little to stop from going under with it all, children are our future and maybe , just maybe in our own little corner of the world we can help our children and those around our community we can help give some grounding and support.
i dont know what the answer is at all lolly, and can only hope i have given enough love/security and emotional grounding too my 2 girls to stand them in good stead should they become parents.
some thought provoking stuff too lolly, what happens to the child that doesnt get enough? sure some do go through life mimicking what their own childhood role models showed them but others break the mould……. .
childhood is a very special time in life and trust as a child is important, once broken in those that should love and protect them is gone then the journey begins for the child. some children grow up and completely go against what they have been told or experienced become ‘well rounded adults ‘ and bring up kids successfully of their own. the reverse is true also though some kids who have everything completely go off the rails?
kids dont come with a handbook, but having kids i believe is one of the greatest experiences in the world, someone else may feel totally different.
if you cannot forgive yourself do you deserve the child….. without question , a child is a gift and that gift that should be cherished and loved and given the foundation to go out into this big world and experience the next stage of this thing called life.
lolly you posted it in exactly the right place, nice to see you posting and a great post too xxx
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