@omalleythealleycat wrote:
@coathanger wrote:
Agree entirely Malley in theory. Kenty can post on anything she wishes to, as can I. However, Ive written enough stories over the years on here that surely anyone will know whether they are going to enjoy them or not and can make a rational decision not to bother reading them ?
I maybe wrong (there’s a first time for everything!) but I got the impression Kenty found this particular post to be a departure from your earlier stories. If so, it’s quite possible she enjoyed your earlier posts, but believed this one overstepped a mark in some way.
@coathanger wrote:
I certainly don’t think all, or , infact any comments posted should be those agreeing with my submissions and I have never said or implied that !
Well, you kind of did. Suggesting that people who don’t like your posts or find them unfair should not read them (simples!), would seem to imply that you hope your submissions be read only by people who like them and find them fair.
I think there are three possible ‘issues’ regarding this type of opening post. Firstly, we all have different ideas on the exact position of the line between friendly banter and character attacks – or even what ‘banter’ is. We also have different views on what ‘attacks’ are justified and which aren’t, as we all have different experiences of particular chatters. We all know at least one chatter who can be the epitome of charm at their best, whilst vile and nasty at their worst. It’s conceivable, for a while at least, that an individual is witness only to the ‘nice’ side (hence the sometimes baffling jumps to defend certain people). We sometimes see chatters we consider to be ‘nice’, hurling abuse at another and quickly assume they must have been provoked, which is not always the case.
Secondly, there’s perceived by many to be an inherent injustice (and a possible breach of trust) when such posts are made by somebody considered to be ‘hiding’.
Finally, many people view the critiquing of other chatters in itself narcissistic, in a “who appointed you?” kind of way. This view is usually very closely linked to the second point, in that such posts ten
d to be ‘acceptable’ should the reader happen to think that the recipient(s) deserve it!
Wouldn’t bother trying to explain :lol: