I see where youre coming from i had children at a young age and sacrificed many things because of it …….it is hard trying to find a place for youreself when youre a mother but it is possible and theres is a lot of help and support out there if you are brave enough to ask for it ……as for the family issues you have to be tough and realise sometimes you have to let people sort there issues out for themselves there is only so much you can do to help people, Im sure youre husband wants to support you and just beacuse things are bad dosent mean you were never supposed to be together everyone has moments in there life when they struggle and feel the world is falling down around there ears but you have to battle on through it ……..once youre family problems are sorted and youre confidence at uni returns you will probably discover relations between youre self and youre husband improve if they dont then maybe you should question the relationship……..just have faith in youre self ,its apparent youre a intelligent woman and can handle what is being laid out infront of you just belive in youreself and remeber whatever life throws at you as long as you and youre kids are ok really nothing elce matters :wink: