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@desmondy wrote:
At what point did a chatroom become so complicated?
You go in, you kill some time and chat, you put losers on ignore and then leave when you’re done.
I guess if you buy into the whole brother, sister, mummy, daddy and bezzie mate online thing then you kinda have to expect it to bite you on the derriere at some point.
Perhaps a simple rule: everyone in a chatroom is just a name on a screen until they prove otherwise. This wont happen after a week or even a month!
The people from justchat that I consider friends are the ones who have proven themselves to be just that over a period of time.More than one person has mentioned a clique. Well who’s in that then? If they annoy you ignore all of them. There’s nothing which says you have to allocate ‘mate’ labels to everyone, add them to msn and divulge all your secrets to them. in the same way that its no-one’s business if and why someone is gay or anything similar. You have complete control over what you put ‘out there.’ Thats not to say you should make up a load of lies either!
My opinion of course 8)Marry me Desmo?? :P
No, i dont buy into the whole “family” thing, while there is an old chatter i call mum, that has nothing to do with chat and more to do us as people. I am afraid i also dont buy into half of the “relationships” in there either, there is one exception, and thats the couple who don’t play out their relationship in the chatroom, id like to think they know who they are without naming names.
And without naming names when it comes to the cliquey feeling in chat, that isnt fair and it feels like mud slinging and it makes it sound like i am trying to say im not just as guilty as others, because i am.
As for the everyone just being names of a screen until you get to “know” someone. And for the information you divulge, it must be nice des, that you have never felt like you are being interrogated and asked some questions that are quite personal, as annoying a question as it is, i think it should stop at ASL, without you having to be labelled as anything because you dont actually want to tell people anything. In fact i once refused to give my ASL and it was thrown at me “well how do we know you are really a female if you dont tell us” my reply was how do you know just because i give an ASL?
While i don’t go in as often as i used to, because quite frankly, its not fun anymore. I have learned from my past mistakes. I will no longer let anyone pm with me (except you Lucy) and i wont get dragged into anyones dramas. And yeah, now i just see it as names on a screen. I am not sure how you “prove” yourself to somone on a chatroom, maybe you can let me know how that works Des, but i will continue to chat with those that i can have fun and a giggle with and ignore the rest. Hey it only took me nearly 2 years to work that out, but i got there in the end. So, if you are after a giggle and a laugh, im your girl, if you are wanting attention, sorry you got the wrong person.
I am in the independent chatter party… my manefesto is keep ya nose out, ya pms locked and just banter in chat. That said I consider a couple of you friends… Desmondy included and in fact out of all the people over the years who have come and gone Des is one of the only people I actually trust enough to have on my facebook from this place.
@barbie_girl wrote:
As for the everyone just being names of a screen until you get to “know” someone. And for the information you divulge, it must be nice des, that you have never felt like you are being interrogated and asked some questions that are quite personal, as annoying a question as it is, i think it should stop at ASL, without you having to be labelled as anything because you dont actually want to tell people anything. In fact i once refused to give my ASL and it was thrown at me “well how do we know you are really a female if you dont tell us” my reply was how do you know just because i give an ASL
If its in JC than such people are only one click from ignore. If its in msn than they’re one click from block and another from delete!
@barbie_girl wrote:
I am not sure how you “prove” yourself to somone on a chatroom, maybe you can let me know how that works Des, but i will continue to chat with those that i can have fun and a giggle with and ignore the rest. Hey it only took me nearly 2 years to work that out, but i got there in the end. So, if you are after a giggle and a laugh, im your girl, if you are wanting attention, sorry you got the wrong person.
Maybe ‘prove’ was the wrong word but you’ve got it right there anyway. Those who are still around, still ask about your wellbeing and still treat you the same as they did at the beginning have, in a way, proved themselves. Allbeit not intentionally, which is the beauty of it!
Aww Moldy and Lucy made me feel all gooey :)
Must go and turn myself back into stone immediately!Like i said, i have eventually learned all that, and yes i have a few people from here to have moved from online acquaintance to proper friend because they are still in my life and well, i like them. As for everyone else who has come and gone in all the years i have used this site, well yeah, they have all been deleted or blocked and i dont miss them.
I plan to belong to the independent chat party from now on, i think chatting will be a happier experience if i just adopt a “don’t give a fig” attitude to others attitude :D
when i first started using JC, it was, like many of you have said, an escape from things i had going on in my life. I was able to come in here, chat to a few random people about all kinds of rubbish and simply forget what i was going through outside of the lil JC bubble. I never intended to stick around but I did and there are some ppl in here that i do genuinely like to talk to but i can count one one hand the ones i really trust to tell things to.
Yet thats not a bad reflection on any of the other nice ones in here,especially the ones that have commented on this post. Its just a refection of my character and me being the person i am. I don’t trust easily.
I know the ones that i think are idiots and not worth the time of day and yes sometimes i bite to them but again,thats just me being the person i am.
Yes ppl will juge me on the way they see me chat and the words i use but to be truly understood,get to know me and then make ur mind up :-D
I don’t know you very well bexy, but you have always struck me as nice. And i think we are all guilty of biting back at the ones we consider idiots in there.
It isn’t just JC that this happens, it happens in all chat rooms…..just sayin
@melody wrote:
I am in the independent chatter party… my manefesto is keep ya nose out, ya pms locked and just banter in chat. That said I consider a couple of you friends… Desmondy included and in fact out of all the people over the years who have come and gone Des is one of the only people I actually trust enough to have on my facebook from this place.
Cheers Doo :lol:
@lucylocket wrote:
It isn’t just JC that this happens, it happens in all chat rooms…..just sayin
Agreed.
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