Cosy, Blossom and Thin…………..

People like Thin ice like to play the victim , he likes to hang onto old grievances. and carry them around like weapons, just in case anyone ever tries to hold him accountable for something. A victim will bring up old memories and events in which they were probably legitimately hurt, but they use them as reasons
why they can’t make changes to their attitude, their life, or their circumstances in the present. These hurts and grudges underpin the victim’s hobbled life. .

What’s the remedy here? This one is pretty simple. Let those grudges go! The victim needs to see that keeping grudges is only holding them down, and not doing anything to help anyone else either- although the victim may not believe this. The victim needs to recognize that freeing others of blame is actually returning all power and self-control back to the victim, so guess what? That means they no longer have to be the victim!
Whoopie my first post, thought id help the boards plod along.

thin ice wrote:

Interesting theory Sophia
But did you not notice this thread was started on the 8th of April
So hardly an old grievance
You may or may not of also noticed I’m not the author
So it’s not even my grievance
I’m just milking it xx

Now infairness Thin it is a old ” Grievance ” however im at a loss as to how you can have a Grievance on a chat room?
My Sophia my Dear this is indeed the world of chat and people will always hold grudges which is a lil shame but on we march, Take pride in your first post however i feel you would have been better spent saying Hello to everyone? lol

Basically the room is a shambles and we all contribute to shambolica

Hes a bloke…..he cant be bothered…..he feels there is no need…….he probably thinks things will die down….though they usually do …but something new will kick off…….he will feel loyalty to people giving up their precious time to look after a bunch of adults who frankly should be wearing dipers and have dummies stuck in their gobs…..truth is most kids copy the adults in charge