Im not digging or having a go. But MAry what if your daughter had done it? Gone out for a meal and your grand daughter was taken? Would you hug her and sa honest mistake or go to town on her? I know which my mother would do, and to be honest i would hope for nothing less. All i am thinking about is that poor NEGLECTED little girl, and hope she is alive and well. NO ONE else matters in this, and when the get her back she needs monitoring for her parents “responsabilities”.