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A couple of my friends got into a bit of a heated debate about their children the other day.
One is married and has 3 children. She waited to have her kids in a stable and loving marriage. She felt it very important the children are not just born into or brought up in a 2 parent family and were wanted, but they were conceived with such love! She said when she was planning her children she felt different inside..a kind of nest building within or fluffiness (her words not mine!) for the seed to be planted. By the way she did add she ddn’t think it mattered if they were same sex both the parents. Financially she also said it’s very important to be stable. Nuturing the child she said includes the best education and very nice toys and such to have whilst growing up, and is not just love.
My replies to some of her points were in short,#: I don’t think it’s imperitive to have children in wedlock necessarily but is good for the child to have both male and female role models. Having said that I think same sex couples have every right to have children. As for money matters. Is there ever a right time to have a child as such. You adjust your financies accordingly if a little one comes along.
My other mate is a single mum of 1 child. She was not married to her partner and infact had no intention of marrying. Both of them thought “it’s just a piece of paper”. She said that all that matters is if the woman wants a child, then she should have one. It’s not loved any less infact it’s loved more by one parent. Her partner left her when she was 3 months pregnant because he “couldn’t cope” with a child! She works full time and her family help out with childcare. She says a child is for a woman so a woman can make the decision alone.
My view on her comments: A couple can split up anytime during a marriage or living together so no one knows when you will be a single parent. There should be no stigma. My mum was widowed at 32 yrs old with 4 kids. If a woman wants to bring up children on her own they who is anyone to say otherwise? However if she does it to get more benefits and a flat etc then its wrong. I don’t necessarily think a woman should have to work when a child is young, its heartwrenching for some women to leave young kids at home. But then again if she is single she would have to live on benefits….so thats a difficult one.
What are your views?
Shops not buzy i see :lol:
I think it is imperative that children are brought up in a stable family home environment with good role models. How this is achieved can be in a variety of ways and I do not think being married is essential to that. I have some very good friends who never married and have brought their children up to be happy, healthy, successful individuals. And, I am sure there are also lots of married couples who are rubbish parents! If a relationship breaks down, the children’s welfare must be at the top of the list. And, I cannot understand why people have children to palm them off on other people to look after for them! What’s all that about? If you don’t want to look after them yoursleves, or can’t… don’t flipping well have any! (the latter comment is mostly aimed at people who send their kids to boarding schools before they’ve even cut their adult teeth!)
ahem
end of rant :wink:
Will take my advise and never help the kid with English homework.
It is sometimes forgotten that some women end up single mothers rather than becoming one intentionally, whether it be due to infidelity of a partner, death or whatever… NOT as a money maker.
Many children are brought up by one parent whether it is Mum or Dad…. I think as long as a child has love, food and and stable environment it doesn’t matter if one parent is absent….
Better to have a stable home with one loving parent than a home with 2 who don’t give a stuff! (and there are enough of those.)
I agree melody….and will, expensive toys are a waste of money with little ones, they always want to play with the box it came in. :D
I believe that many babies in single-parent families were born out of wedlock. In fact, lots of them.
We re-invented the Olympics in a place called Much Wenlock
8)and in this great year of 2012 will thrash the world in the 4×4 looting bastad relay. Everything happens for a reason, and if this great land of ours one day sinks under the weight of it’s own benefit payments then . . . . . . then . . . . . .
. . . well I don’t know.err………..let that be a lesson to you
:D
Friend of mine been on moaning. She sired two ugly little sh/it-faced sprogs after the last UFO invasion. Wrote Captain Kirk and Mr Spock on the birth certificates, but I think she’s lying.
The real fathers names are $n$?7h3 and tx9(bd:k^ . . . and I believe their details are registered on Planet Asimov.
I’m on to them and know the language of that place. As soon as they try their first head-butt on a student teacher I’ll be on to Scotland Yard with my inside knowledge !
So nothing to see here, move along , civilisation has been saved. . . . . . .
hmmmmmmmmmm, being a single parent i may be biased here …. when i had my first i didnt know i was going to end up bringing him up on my own, by the time i realised i had concieved the second i did. I love my kids no matter how much they stress me out and they know this. They dont always have the latest trend but they dont go with out either.
@huggermuggered wrote:
hmmmmmmmmmm, being a single parent i may be biased here …. when i had my first i didnt know i was going to end up bringing him up on my own, by the time i realised i had concieved the second i did. I love my kids no matter how much they stress me out and they know this. They dont always have the latest trend but they dont go with out either.
Evry child is a blessing and all you need is love.Unfortunatley there are people out there who will have children to claim money and a home.One parent,two parents,same sex parents who cares as long as the chiled is loved and cared for.Trends dont matter a jot hugger.Feeding them clothing them,give them manners and education,its not easy.People struggle.I so admire singles mothers or fathers who work so hard to give there kids evrything they need.I feel sorry for any kids who dont get enugh love and attention from there parents.Including kids with evrything,whos fother and father work there but of for things but have no time for the kids.
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