Name-changers and Sociopaths

Su knows :)

Bullying: an intention an/or a tendency to emotionally hurt someone, violate their dignity and/or control in an abusive fashion. It is usually repeated or sustained, but a single intimidating act can also be bullying.

Bullies use their power – real or imagined – from words, being part of an ‘in-group’ or physical power. Some people try to gain ‘in group’ power by aligning themselves with dominant personalities and so end up bullying.

People who are bullied can end up bullying others, including the persons who bullied them in the first place. It might feel justified but it reinforces an intimidating environment.

‘An eye for an eye makes everyone blind’ and all that.

Threatening words or behaviour, sarcasm, spreading libellous information, singling people out for attention or imposing yourself on someone are also used to bully.

I chat for fun and for a place, but I try very hard, and not always successfully, to chat in a way that reflects the kind of person I want to be. I have been singled out by bullies. I have been advised to ignore them, and I usually do but they persist so I oppose them if I can. I understand that one of them has made efforts to find ways into my private life.

I still use the chatroom of course, but I am much more guarded. It’s OK to say ‘trust no-one’ but all interaction involves trust.

The boards were a bit of a haven for a while, I could deal with the individual from the room who continued their efforts here, but others have made their own efforts and that didn’t last. I’m still here, but “here” is not as good.

Leave? Turn off? Off course I can, and I sometimes do. But if ‘decent folks’ are frightened off the ‘streets’ then that leaves ‘them’ running things and they frankly don’t deserve it.

@wordsworth60 wrote:

Bullying: an intention an/or a tendency to emotionally hurt someone, violate their dignity and/or control in an abusive fashion. It is usually repeated or sustained, but a single intimidating act can also be bullying.

Bullies use their power – real or imagined – from words, being part of an ‘in-group’ or physical power. Some people try to gain ‘in group’ power by aligning themselves with dominant personalities and so end up bullying.

People who are bullied can end up bullying others, including the persons who bullied them in the first place. It might feel justified but it reinforces an intimidating environment.

‘An eye for an eye makes everyone blind’ and all that.

Threatening words or behaviour, sarcasm, spreading libellous information, singling people out for attention or imposing yourself on someone are also used to bully.

I chat for fun and for a place, but I try very hard, and not always successfully, to chat in a way that reflects the kind of person I want to be. I have been singled out by bullies. I have been advised to ignore them, and I usually do but they persist so I oppose them if I can. I understand that one of them has made efforts to find ways into my private life.

I still use the chatroom of course, but I am much more guarded. It’s OK to say ‘trust no-one’ but all interaction involves trust.

The boards were a bit of a haven for a while, I could deal with the individual from the room who continued their efforts here, but others have made their own efforts and that didn’t last. I’m still here, but “here” is not as good.

Leave? Turn off? Off course I can, and I sometimes do. But if ‘decent folks’ are frightened off the ‘streets’ then that leaves ‘them’ running things and they frankly don’t deserve it.

Been there, seen it and got the t-shirt, but I don’t bully back – I just fight my corner, and others’ I like – I don’t see that as bullying, and I deffo never divulge anything about a-one-another, just stupidly me, but, hey, that has already been done! I am truely sorry if you have had that, and yes, I did get wind of it as it were, but you are clever Wordsy, and you can get out of it yourself! Above is well said, as always, mwa mwa xxx

LOL I know what you mean, and NO, it is deffo not in my nature to hurt anyone’s feelings either – I just seem to come out with what I am thinking at the time, and then, regret it – well, I don’t regret it all the time!!!

ps. been p’ing down here!! LOL :(