Psychological manipulation.

Doesn’t pay to think too much in here.

Things get in your head & makes you post weird threads. :lol: :-k

@hecate wrote:

@Arc en wrote:

@hecate wrote:

@trapper wrote:

Or psychologically manipulative threads

Or it could be an interesting thread. Trapper you seem to dictate to people what they should post about, or they can post about. Nothing manipulating about the thread. Its a topic im interested in. There is a lot of psychological manipulation goes on ,on the internet. That’s a fact.

Hecate … With respect I think you want to have another look at these boards before you make a sweeping statement like that about Trapper of all people.
Based on what – a comment on your thread?
Possibly this wasn’t the best section of the boards if it’s a topic you feel strongly about & wanted serious discussion about.
You are of course entitled to post where you please but, it might not be taken too seriously in this section of the boards. :roll: :o

Well it is a mixture of all different threads. To be honest, talking about with respect. That wasn’t a sweeping statement. Dunno why everything I post people are looking for a snipe.
You cant post, you can’t post here you can’t post there. All I wanted was a little interaction with the subject, we could have made it good banter. Then if it had been someone els who posted, nothing would have been sed. Look,i want to enjoy and cause interest in the boards. Not fight Its not as if everyone is beating a path to the boards. People have posted more serious subject.

Ironic then is it not that you start such a deep thread within 5 posts of registering. Then accuse one of the most popular & respected contributors of being a dictator (nicely skirted over in your reply by the way).
You claim to be a reg but hide under a name , never understood that one.

The only one making snidey remarks is you! To date you have bumped your gums about Laine , then you have a dig at Trapper.
Where has anyone told you where you can & can’t post??

All I said was that if you wanted a serious discussion then the “Getting serious” thread might of been a better place to post.
You and I quote “want to enjoy the boards” well lighten up that might be an idea.

The boards aren’t for everyone & if you look there is & always has been a core of contributors that can talk shyte with the best of them but can also do serious.

Hecate is an interesting name … greek goddess of witchcraft? (Sorry to disagree with ya rogue )

Anyway have a big pinch of salt you need it here … :wink: :lol:

@hecate wrote:

Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or abusive tactics.[1] By advancing the interests of the manipulator, often at another’s expense, such methods could be considered exploitative, abusive, devious, and deceptive. Social influence is not necessarily negative. For example, doctors can try to convince patients to change unhealthy habits. Social influence is generally perceived to be harmless when it respects the right of the influenced to accept or reject and is not unduly coercive. Depending on the context and motivations, social influence may constitute underhanded manipulation.

I can not abide psychological manipulation. As soon as I meet someone who uses such tactics, my trust in them is gone.On finding a peer using psychological manipulation, i understand immediately they are no friend. They are looking to use me to create interest in themselves. I find it pretentious, egotistical, peacockish behaviour. That has no place in a friendship.
How ever, I have no problem with a qualified dr, using such tactics on there patient’s.

I,m wondering, what do other people think?

Hi Hectate…welcome to the boards and happy posting xx

Interesting topic. I think if you delve deep enough you will find this kind of manipulation in lots of aspects of our day to day life. Some examples will be softer compared to others. On the other hand if you are not thinking others are manipulative then you won’t see it..well not as a negative anyway.
Also the perception could be different… I could maybe see a husband and wifes PM (short version) differently to what you see it. For instance. As a single person when you go to a Wedding or Party for instance, and you are innocently chatting away with a group of people, a wife may start holding her husbands hand tighter…show more public affection because she may feel the single woman is making “eyes” at her husband. She could be seen as PM’ing him, some might just see her as insecure. Depends as an individual how you read the situation.
If you are talking about incidents in JC. Then yes. For instance…you can be happily chatting to someone in there and then their “mate” enters the room…who you may not necessarily chat too…then you see a change in the person you were originally chatting to…not sure if this is PM of just gutless behaviour from an adult who does not have a backbone and understand they can chat to who they like, without feeling disloyal…see that alot.
Maybe give me some examples Hectate.
To me this topic is like Conspiracy theories….if you look deep enough for it…its there