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Certs Castles Plc :lol:

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Bouncy castle

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The legal stuff is done. Immediately I am reminded of you telling me, many times before we were married, that it wasn’t just about a wedding, but about the legalities of marriage. And it strikes me that there isn’t a correlate of a wedding for the legalities of divorce.

But I think there ought to be. A ritual untying of a frayed knot.

Today, I drove out to the High Rocks, in Groombridge, East Sussex, and walked around that peaceful and beautiful place, where we had once been so full of hope, when we made eloquent wedding vows, brimming with rude ambition for a union that had the odds stacked against it from the start.

Our wedding day still ranks up there among the best days of my life. We may not have been Romeo and Juliet, but there are compensations: nobody died young.

One of the most touching surprises of coming home after things didn’t work out (there have been many beautiful surprises), has been the sadness of friends and family that our marriage didn’t go the distance. It has been good and healing to be reminded that once upon a time, we loved each other. I also remain resolute that we had more adventures in our decade and a bit than many people fit into a lifetime.

Yet you and I also know that individually, and collectively, we failed. There are words we cannot take back, actions we can’t undo, stains and blemishes that won’t rub out or fade, or look good in any light.

Then again, so much of who I am now, especially the parts I really like, I am because of you, because you loved and nurtured those aspects, and because of our marriage. Almost every time I see a film, watch plays, read certain books and listen to new music, I often wonder what you would make of it, what we would have discussed.

I know, too, that you spent many years hoping I would slow down, when I just seemed to get faster and faster, and ever more frazzled and exhausted. It’s likely I will always be ambitious, but my life has a slower rhythm now. There’s perhaps a barely conscious realisation that speed kills love.

It has been a little over two years since we legally separated. I am enormously proud that we have gone our own ways without acrimony or bitterness, but with kindness and respect. At one time we joked that we were more amicable than our respective lawyers.

Having reneged on our High Rocks promises, I’d like to make three wishes on untying the knot.

My first wish is that we both come out of this not just wiser and stronger, but nicer people too. The second is that we both learn some life-changing lessons from what went wrong, and make sure we don’t repeat avoidable errors. That would be the real tragedy. And my last wish is that we both find that elusive “happy-ever-after”, with someone else.

Love to you, and the best of British on this next leg of your journey.

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No one here is going to make any difference to what i or anyone else posts so who cares.

Prepares some more letters.

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Yes i played the guitar for many years. Played a lot of Brazilian music, they have some great rhythms which suit the classical guitar.Havnt played for a long while now which seems a waste.

But life moves on in stages and im at the next door….Antiques…..all i need is to spray myself orange and buy a pin-striped suit and i will be known as Certy Dickinson. :D

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@tinks wrote:

If you google ‘what constitutes rape’ and ‘at what age…..’ followed by ‘when consent isn’t consent at the age of…….’ you soon realise that this is a very complicated subject :-s

http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2003/42/contents
pick the bones out of this lot

I was a jury member on a rape case and believe me it is complicated.

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Happy birthday Penny :D

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Yes Pepsi here we are

Look out the window when that rain storms
I let the wind blow up a brain storm
And now I’m wondering whether weather like this gets you too

It may go on like this for hours
Too late in Fall for April showers
So what we got here
Got a thought or two
I need to share with you

Here goes

Darling tell me now
Have I done wrong somehow
That you won’t look at me

It is pointed out
Can’t keep my wits about
When you won’t look at me

Is there something I outta know
You’re finding hard to say
[- From: http://www.elyrics.net/read/a/astrud-gilberto-lyrics/a-certain-sadness-lyrics.html -]
Well there’s just a trace
Hiding on your face
And I learned it that way

Just another soul
That really knows my soul
And you won’t look at me

Does that take the prize
How much I love those eyes
And they won’t look at me

Now the rain has gone
But something lingers on
There’s certain sadness here
Now that the sky is clear

And it’s so so clear
Yes, it’s all so clear
To me now

And I can’t help but feel
That certain sadness’s here
To stay
:D

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Good luck next week Lucy :D

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