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A few observations.
Laine, Hello.
Chatrooms are not the ‘real world’. You may well be a pleasant Lady in the real world, however, you threw yourself into ‘chat world’ and got it all badly wrong, despite advise from others, probarbly because you seem to always think you know best.
Being honest is, indeed, a virtue, however, in a chatroom, disclosing your life story, repeatedly (very repeatedly) will only lead to abuse because the simple truth is that many who visit JC are not nice, decent, honest, people and believing that they are is quite frankly very niave.
If what you say about your life is true you have indeed had some major traumas, your mistake is sounding like you are the only person who ever has had any. Do you not think some of the people sharing the room have had tragic events? Lost children? Loved ones? suffered illness? etc etc ?
Why do you think they do not talk about it in the room ?? Because they are not honest and truthful??? No !!! It’s because they know better. They know a public chatroom, which hides faceless sociopaths is not the place to divulge personal and often upsetting things about their lives. Many have learned the hard way not to disclose too much information as, inevitably, it will be twisted and thrown at them in a vile and abusive manner.

Your ‘Gone’ post and your subsequent lengthly post both smack of the same chat style you used in the room.
A small example :
” I hope

I’m sure

I am NOT

I have never

Being a widow gets a little lonely at times, sad but true, and no matter how much money status hobbies

I get

I got past it

I even invited

a little about me…….. yes i have been open in the room about myself, there is nothing i have said that i wouldnt tell a stranger, so no one can hold any skeleton over me and give me something to reproach myself for, i don’t do behind the scenes gossiping or nastiness, it just isnt me.

i cope

im proud of myself

i proved them wrong

ive been abused all my life and certainly won’t accept it from strangers who neither know the
im also proud that i can

i dont have skeletons in my cupboards,
i dont hurt people,
i dont abuse people,
im just a nice ordinary middle aged woman.

i am very much liked ”

You may well be very proud of yourself but self praise is no praise at all.
Maybe if you had shown more interest in others rather than blowing your own trumpet constantly people would have been more accepting.
Most people, not all, but most, who go into JC are working class people, they tend not to say ” nipped out to the garden centre but bought a brand new fiesta on a whim instead” . They tend not to chat about holidaying on their 2nd yacht based around the greek islands” I could go on….and on… You may not have thought you were bragging, but trust me thats exactly how it sounded.
What is odd though, people who live well and have money tend not to mention it constantly. Its a ‘class’ thing. You either have it or you just say you have it.
Just to re-quote you ” and no matter how much money status hobbies ” you even managed to do it when displaying how lonely you are, indicating you have money and somehow deserve status ?

Another big mistake you made was to alienate the ladies or some of them, who have been in there a lot longer than you. You seemed to think they were jealous of the attention the men gave you. You could not be more wrong, they more than anyone, know exactly what the men are like and for example they know that Clowning, although harmless is desparate for sex chat and a well known perv, so he and others like im are tolerated in an amused way. You were correct in your description of Joker, he is a sociopath, with no morals or conscience, as is Thick Slice, its a pity you didn’t listen to the advice instead of taking it as a form of jealousy from others.
In JC people earn respect, it’s not a ‘given’. In the real world all deserve respect until they prove otherwise. In Cyber world you trust nobody until you gradually form your own opinions and learn who you can trust, only then can you actually make some real and lasting friendships.
I wish you well with your health issues but Laine, It Was All Too Much Too Soon !!

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Awww Minnie Mouse, are you feeling left out ?

I’ll give you a starring role next time, you’re one of my favourite characters 8)

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And a Happy New New Year to you, Rosepedalbin…. and all my stars. All The Very Best for 2013….. expect me soon …………….. :lol:

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Ohhhh this is wonderful, such a rich tapestry…. keep going :lol: * makes notes *

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@mrs_teapot wrote:

@coathanger wrote:

=D> Su, Well Done. You are indeed a beautiful person. I applaud you, and remember bullies never win. Are you watching sociopath ? Are you even slightly remorseful for any of your actions ? Of course you aren’t… and that is why you will always be WEAK !

I wish that were true coat… but I.m sorry to say it isn’t…. bullies do win… and just looking at this thread and the subsequent posts proves it to me…… its a terrible society we have created for ourselves in the real world and here in JC where its exaggerated but just the same. Things will go on just the same … su will feel better for a while that she has got it off her chest… I know Ive been there…….but all that happens in fact its probably happening already….. is the bully moves onto his next victim. Sorry… but its true and people such as myself and su… and others Im sure cannot do a thing about it other than leaving chat and ultimately JC. I dont know what the answer is… maybe there isn’t one

They are still WEAK

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And what she said ^^^ :D

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=D> Su, Well Done. You are indeed a beautiful person. I applaud you, and remember bullies never win. Are you watching sociopath ? Are you even slightly remorseful for any of your actions ? Of course you aren’t… and that is why you will always be WEAK !

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:-…

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:lol: Don’t be a Diva Tinkletits xxx

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Hehehe but you are my lovely :D

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