thanks for your kind words cass xxx and i totally get what your saying and how you say its better to protect your children from a lie ….. but havin seen both sides, lived the make it work kinda thing n the seperate lives for the children i’m sure in my heart even tho they have had great times over the past 11 years with me that if my x had nt ave eneded the marriage and we were still together muddling along they would have had such a happier childhood