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Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have of changing others.
Melted cornettos are slim-line extras? :?
It’s also a well known fact that once the cheese starts cooling down and solidifying again the calories jump back on board and bring all the lost calories with them so you’d have to be able to prove beyond all reasonable doubt that the cheese was sufficiently melted and hot for the calories to have escaped and not returned and that there was no other contributory food that caused the obesity…you know, like bamboo stuffed with cream cheese, bamboo filled with chocolate mousse, that kind of thing.
Phew – that was a long sentence!
@panda12 wrote:
Just had cheese on toast for lunch! :P
Is it fattening though? :-k
Nah the calories leak out as the cheese melts…
It is possible to forgive but it takes a long time. However you may forgive but you never forget. The memories may fade, just as scars do, sometimes you are more aware of those scars than others,sometimes you can even forget they are there but they never disappear altogether.
In order to forgive, you have to break the psychological hold that the abuse/abuser has over you but how do you break that hold when you keep bumping into the person who abused you, when he/she shows no remorse, each time the sight of them dragging it all to the forefront of your mind again? Many move away from the area, have a fresh start, but how do you do that when the person is on the TV, in the newspapers, being lauded as someone wonderful? Even in death, they keep reappearing in the media, their grinning face looking right at you…imagine not being able to get away from it. How do you break that hold, take back your power?
Whether or not it’s the method I would have chosen is immaterial, I can understand why the victims took it to the media just as I can understand how there might be many more victims out there who will still keep quiet. For some, the monster keeps haunting you but no one else can see past the monster’s disguise. The only way you can see to strip that monster of their power is to expose them, strip off the disguise so that others can see the monster for what they really are. When you’ve taken away the monster’s power then maybe the psychological hold over you can be broken to enable you to forgive and move on…but you never forget.
When you have found that forgiveness and moved on the best you can, maybe if you are strong enough, then when it is appropriate you share your story with others. Not to be a victim, you’ve gone past that, but to share the lessons learnt, to stop others from finding themselves in the position that you did, and if they do find themselves in that position, to show them that it is possible to survive and become a stronger person as a result…it just takes time.
@wordsworth60 wrote:
Ian Brady, and possibly Abu Hamza and their ilk deny people human rights in fact, in principle and by intention.
The UK Legal system does not deny people their human rights, at least in principle if not always in fact, and not by intention.
I’m very happy indeed that my country’s legal system operates on very different principles than Brady and Hamza.
Long may it continue.
Although I wish the process didn’t have to take so long, I agree.
Stalker
“No one truly knows what they will do in a certain situation until they are actually in it. It’s very easy to judge someone else’s actions by what you assume your own would be, if you were in their shoes. But we only know what we THINK we would do, not what we WOULD do.”
― Ashly LorenzanaAin’t that the truth!
Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored.