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:shock: oh go on then…mwaaaaah!

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winger

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Zsa Zsa Gabor (go on, you were expecting zebra weren’t you? :lol: )

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John, I’m only dancing – David Bowie

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I’m not taking offence, just looking behind my own mask, being a bit self-indulgent I guess…

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@sceptical guy wrote:

Hmm…

how do I answer this without annoying Jen, who does not seem a person who could be annoyed with safety :shock: , or who should be annoyed :) .

That made me laugh! :lol:

It takes a lot to annoy me so I think you’re safe but when I am annoyed then you’re right – look out! :twisted:

@sceptical guy wrote:

Confidentiality seems to be used by you as a means of getting someone to be close to you, as breaking down the armour, the barriers which separate us. That is my meaning of weapon. You seem very clear about how you use it Jen, which is why I respect your communications.

Now this has bemused me.
I don’t encourage others to confide in me but for some reason they do…apparently I’m the kind of person that people feel comfortable pouring their heart out to, they feel that I won’t sit in judgement of them, view them any less of a person, and that it will remain confidential – all of which is true. When people do confide in me I feel honoured that they trust me so and respect that trust and repay it with my confidentiality. I don’t use it to get people to be close to me though. If they never talk about such things again, if our relationship reverts to how if was before the confidence, then that is fine with me

When it comes to my confidentiality, keeping my inner self and my problems and worries to myself, then the brick wall is high and deep and the mask is on. I don’t want people to get that close, trust is a big issue for me and not something I give lightly. Far from using confidentiality to get people to be close to me and far from breaking down the armour and barriers that separate us…in fact the opposite is true, I use my own confidentiality to strengthen that barrier. So yes, maybe I do use confidentiality as a weapon but as a weapon of defence, and only my own confidentiality.

I envy those that trust more freely than I, that share so much, in doing so they form strong bonds of friendship that outweigh the risks of the few that would betray that trust, friendships that they can fall back on in times of trouble.

Does that make sense? And is this starting to sound like a therapy session? :lol:

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I’ve never thought of either as weapons… :-k

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