Well I thought a certain sadness was male…. no idea why :? I do think that sadness has brought a freshness to the boards… and I love all your new threads :D
Anyway to answer your question, first i try not to judge people so I can only tell you that for me an affair is not possible, its not the fact that you would be doing “it” with another person…. for me it would be living with continuous lies in your everyday life…… not just to your husband but to your friends and family too.
Also what about the person who you have the affair with… its likely he would also be living a lie… nope for me personally it would be too stressful. I do think though its each to his own…. and some couples have good marriages even though one or both have affairs…. thats their business.