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@cass_2000 wrote:
@pete wrote:
So if someone was being told by their friends that their partner is a terrible flirt they’re always doing it they could just say “oh thats what they’re like it’s harmless” and not have any doubt
Well yes obv you would get doubt, but what if you believed they mean no harm by it…. Someone once said to me “I have a flirty personality”… you cant change people’s personalities
All i’m saying is if someone says they really love someone else and the other person is affected by the flirting then it shouldn’t be hard to stop.
@(f)politics? wrote:
ok now here is where i have to disagree, flirting can in a way be quite selfless as people like to be liked and admired so flirting with someone can make that person feel good about themselves as long as it is only that it can be a way of being charming nothing more.
can make the other person feel good yeah, but if someone is in a relationship where they claim they’re madly deeply in love then why are they flirting. People dont flirt to make the other person feel good at least not with strangers
Then dont trust them
So if someone was being told by their friends that their partner is a terrible flirt they’re always doing it they could just say “oh thats what they’re like it’s harmless” and not have any doubt
What other part ?
I dont believe flirting is harmless thats just an excuse. I’m not saying anything major is wrong if someone flirts but why flirt if you’re getting everything you want from a relationship.
If you accept that because the other person keeps telling you “it means nothing it’s harmless” I think you’re kidding yourself and I think deep down you know it… (by you i dont mean you i mean a person any person)If you both have it if only one of you does and you know it then it cant survive, then it’s fear of being alone
You cant let them go because it’s safe it’s what you know even though you’re getting hurt at least it’s not emptiness
If you can forgive them then it just might work because forgiving isn’t as simple as letting them off the hook it empowers you to move on. It of course depends on their resulting behaviour.
