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@jen_jen wrote:
@forumhostpb wrote:
Is it ‘genetic’ I don’t know for sure, but my instinct is that their respective sizes are due in no small part to their diet.And therein lies the judgement.
I have two friends at opposite ends of the scale, one is painfully thin because of a metabolic disorder, she eats anything and everything, far more than I could ever eat, then people make the assumptions that because she eats so much and is so thin she must be bulimic. She gives examples like going to a dinner party, really enjoying the food as the hostess was a cordon bleu chef, taking seconds when they were offered, then being puzzled about why the hostess was standing outside the bathroom door every time she came out from the loo, until she realised that the hostess was listening for her being sick.
My other friend could well fit the description you have given, with two kids. People think nothing of openly staring at her, making comments about how obscene it is and she should do something about it, always said deliberately loud enough for her to hear. She has been apporached by a complete stranger, told to get a grip and take a pride in herself and stop being such a drain on society. What none of these people know is that she is fighting a serious medical condition and her size is entirely down to the illness and her medication – she was a size 10 before it all started. She eats a very healthy balanced diet – she has to for her illness – and every comment cuts her to the bone but she thanks her lucky stars each day that she is still alive.
Yes, size (underweight or overweight) can be down to bad diet, poor exercise regime etc., skinny isn’t necessarily healthy either, but there can also be other reasons that are not obvious.
So back to the question…..why do we think it’s ok to pass judgement on a person about their weight when we barely know them? And why do some people think that they can abuse a person for their appearance?
Because that’s just the way it is.. Everyday people are going to be critiscised, not only for their weight, or appearance, but how they live, how they speak, how they walk..
LMAO – You done it yet Will? Can we watch? :shock:
Searching Cinema Listings.. :)
A sexy someone in msn.. Shocking photo babes,.. But,.. If you’ve got it, flaunt it.. 8)
Are there any dealers in Justchat?.. :lol:
Ever since the Baby P business, they have started to take cases more seriously, (apparantly).. Although, it’s a shame that it took something like that for them (The Social Services) to get their a sses into gear..
If they can’t do their jobs, then resign. Social Services in my area have come under scrutiny, due to an incident which happened here. It’s a shame, because no doubt, there are many many more children out there, who are suffering, and need to be saved! And, like i have mentioned previously, if there are parents out there who are mis-treating/abusing their kids, then they should be medically STOPPED from bringing anymore children into the world! It can, and should be done!!!
Just apologised to Lorna, an old friend for something i did many many years ago… (Put salt in her mouth, telling her it was Sherbert).. :lol:
Although she didn’t remember, so, i should have kept my mouth shut..
Shame she didn’t!.. (Sounds rude).. :lol:
There are many more i need to apologise to.. Oh Gawd, i was very wicked!!
@forumhostpb wrote:
The Daily Mail a newspaper??? I don’t think so. More like a tabloid rag.
I’m much more sophisticated than that – i tend to read the Guardian! 8)
@rubyred wrote:
please.. Bat i know you will sign. Im not getting at you ! this wee man was battered then taken to a party. he vomited blood all night,his loving mummy went out for 3 hours and prostitute herself s he was left in toilet in some drug den, while everyone laughed at the wee baby being sick and wretching. they flicked him with cloths and slapped him to keep him alive.. NOT ONE person called an ambulance..
he was n the death throes as folks giggled all stoned .. dirty basturds.Brandon Lee never even made 2 years old !
Kill the F*****G mother, (Useless waste of space),.. gather all the B******S who did this, and torture the sicko’s until they’re screaming and begging for their life.. I feel sick!
@jen_jen wrote:
@woohoo wrote:
@pete wrote:
who ate all the pies
Now, what Pete said was directed at the more Obese person,… but yet, if i now say: “Who spewed up all the pies”, now, that would be directed at an anorexic, and in this case, i find that my line was more insulting!.. Funny Ole World!
If you’re gonna throw insults around at least get your facts right – your line would be directed at someone with bulimia, not anorexia….. :wink:
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@tictax wrote:why do some women find it acceptable to be totally nasty to celebs that are thin, chat shows , press etc , u hear it ” she looks ill , she looks painfully thin , boney , to name a few
Iif the media wasn’t so obsessed with appearance and highlighting every time an actress puts on 6 or 7 pounds and horror of horrors goes up to a UK size 10, then these women wouldn’t feel the need to be so skinny in the first place, and yes some do take it to extremes and look ill, gaunt and painfully bony – Victoria Beckham being a case in point. Like many women I’d love to be slimmer but that is definitely not a look I aspire to!
@tictax wrote:
thses ppl wudnt dream of degrading a fat person in this way , they all sympathise,some of these ppl arent goin out of there way to look this way its often disorders etc
Of course they degrade fat people in the same way, both in the media and in real life. If a celeb puts on a few pounds or happens to show some cellulite we suddenly have the zoom lense and the comments of how she’s letting herself go, age is telling, etc etc. If some of these celebs are fat, I want to be celeb-obese!
Skinny people and large people both attract attention, both draw comment, and the comments are equally insulting if you are on the receiving end (as someone who has been both ends of the spectrum, I feel qualified to comment there!). The comments can be even more hurtful if the weight issue is as a result of a disorder or illness. Just as one person may be skinny because of anorexia, bulimia, overactive thyroid, cancer and so on, another person may be larger because of comfort eating, an underactive thyroid, medication and so on. Yet people feel free to pass judgement based on appearances and make comments openly even to complete strangers.
Maybe the question is – why do we feel it’s ok to pass judgement on a person about their weight when we barely know them, yet we would never comment in the same way about, say, their acne?
Who’s throwing insults? I’m not, just stating my opinion.. Quite similar to your opinion when you make your point about those with acne. Women.. Jeez.. Always ready to jump the gun. :roll:
