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    Now, I’m the first person to admit that I’m not a very patient or sympathetic person sometimes, especially with whingers and moaners who think others owe them a better life, or minor health problems magnified on a daily basis.

    The title of this thread is autism,and before you all jump down my throat……I know there are many types and degrees of autism….I know there are lots of genuine cases……I KNOW!

    The other day I was driving behind a car that had the sticker
    “Proud grandparent of a child with autism”
    I mean wtf!!!!!
    Is she proud the child has autism? Is it some sort of badge of honour? Is it ok to go round telling the world your child’s illnesses? Like asthma or eczema.?

    I mentioned this to a friend , because I can be insensitive I thought she could perhaps tell me what I’m missing re the sticker…..
    Well, she told me lots of Facebook posts are similar……her partner has a grandson with autism self diagnosed and wanted it all official…..my friend had mentioned the kid was just a naughty little sh**…….anyway the pediatrician however you spell it actually told them the kid is not autistic but just a little naughty …..they weren’t happy now the grandad is paying for a private second opinion……yes I know doctors can get diagnosis wrong……will be interesting to see what comes up with the second opinion…..will he tell them what they want to hear? Who wants to put drugs into their kids needlessly….I assume it’s controlled with medication?

    I think that’s it for now….enough amo for me to be ripped into lol

    #997314

    :good: thread,
    ello kenty
    i am a parent to a autistic child he also has Asperger syndrome
    and i am very proud to be his mum and maybe the car sticker is part of the making people aware campagne they are doing at the mo
    if you want to genuinely know how living with Autism feels like take a look at the link below

    http://www.autism.org.uk/get-involved/tmi/virtual.aspx

    or want further info
    http://www.autism.org.uk/

    Asperger syndrome has only recently been recognised as a unique disorder. For that reason, the exact number of people with the disorder is unknown, although it is more common than autism. The National Autistic Society says the condition affects people from all nationalities, cultures and social backgrounds. It is more common in boys/men than girls/women.
    There currently is no cure for Asperger syndrome, but treatment may improve functioning and reduce undesirable behaviours. Treatment may include a combination of the following:

    Special educational needs (SEN): Education that is structured to meet the child’s unique educational needs should be provided by schools through each school’s special educational needs co-ordinator (SENCO).
    Behaviour therapy: This includes strategies for supporting positive behaviour and decreasing problem behaviour by the child.
    Communication, speech, physical or occupational therapy: These therapies are designed to increase the child’s functional abilities. These approaches include applied behavioural analysis (ABA) and speech and language therapy (SLT).
    Dietary changes: Some proponents of complementary and alternative medicine suggest special diets or vitamin supplements for help with Asperger syndrome. The NHS says there is little or no evidence to suggest that any of these approaches are effective.
    Medication: There are no medications to treat Asperger syndrome itself, but medication may be used to treat specific symptoms, such as anxiety (nervousness), depression, hyperactivity and obsessive-compulsive behaviour. Children with Asperger syndrome are at risk of developing other mental illnesses, such as depression and anxiety disorders. There are various treatment options available for these conditions.

    Because the level of intelligence often is average or higher than average, many people with Asperger syndrome are able to function very well. They may, however, continue to have problems socialising with others through adulthood. Asperger syndrome cannot be prevented or cured. However, early diagnosis and treatment can improve function and quality of life.

    my son has struggled with things that should come easy to others he isnt good in social situations or crowds
    he has struggled with reading and writing
    but he has ploughed on and managed to get his public service level 1 yes its took him longer than many of the others in his class
    and No he wasnt drugged up to achieve this
    which is why im so very proud to say i have a child with Autism and if i drove id buy the sticker and support the charity to raise fund to raise awarness
    so more people understand, my son isnt a retard or special or disabled

    he is less abled to to do things at the same pace as everyone else thats all slow and steady wins the race for him he can do everything he puts his mind to just might take him longer thats all and one of the most caring loving and loyal people you could every wish to meet.

    #997317

    Like I said Angel….I know there are many forms and degrees of Autism……and I will also admit I do not know much about it…..I don’t get the sticker thing….maybe there is a campaign at the mo…I don’t know

    If a car sticker said “proud parent of a child who went to Oxford University”….it would be seen as bragging..

    I get you say you are proud to be his mum….most mums would say they are proud to be mothers to their children

    Also that kid I used in my example…..hes going to the grammar school in September…..not behind his peers at all

    #997318

    Right I think what it meant was: despite their grandchild being autistic, and despite the many problems it can cause, they are proud of their grandchild and what they have achieved in spite of being autistic. Does that make sense?

    Because autistic children do not see the world the way ‘normal’ kids do. And before anyone shoots me. i do NOT mean autistic children are abnormal, I simply mean as apose to a child without such a mental disability.

    Autistic children cannot make sense of the world in the same way we can. Things that to us are non threatening, will terrify an autistic child.

    To anyone else who wants to understand more, I would highly recomend a book, called: For the love of Ann..it is the true story of an autistic girl born in the 1950’s, when no one knew much, if anything about these things. It tells the story through the eyes of her parents, and how they struggled to cope with something they didnt understand.

    It is written by a man called James Copeland. You can find it in amazon, really cheaply.

    #997321

    :good: thread,
    ello kenty
    i am a parent to a autistic child he also has Asperger syndrome
    and i am very proud to be his mum and maybe the car sticker is part of the making people aware campagne they are doing at the mo
    if you want to genuinely know how living with Autism feels like take a look at the link below

    http://www.autism.org.uk/get-involved/tmi/virtual.aspx

    or want further info
    http://www.autism.org.uk/

    Asperger syndrome has only recently been recognised as a unique disorder. For that reason, the exact number of people with the disorder is unknown, although it is more common than autism. The National Autistic Society says the condition affects people from all nationalities, cultures and social backgrounds. It is more common in boys/men than girls/women.
    There currently is no cure for Asperger syndrome, but treatment may improve functioning and reduce undesirable behaviours. Treatment may include a combination of the following:

    Special educational needs (SEN): Education that is structured to meet the child’s unique educational needs should be provided by schools through each school’s special educational needs co-ordinator (SENCO).
    Behaviour therapy: This includes strategies for supporting positive behaviour and decreasing problem behaviour by the child.
    Communication, speech, physical or occupational therapy: These therapies are designed to increase the child’s functional abilities. These approaches include applied behavioural analysis (ABA) and speech and language therapy (SLT).
    Dietary changes: Some proponents of complementary and alternative medicine suggest special diets or vitamin supplements for help with Asperger syndrome. The NHS says there is little or no evidence to suggest that any of these approaches are effective.
    Medication: There are no medications to treat Asperger syndrome itself, but medication may be used to treat specific symptoms, such as anxiety (nervousness), depression, hyperactivity and obsessive-compulsive behaviour. Children with Asperger syndrome are at risk of developing other mental illnesses, such as depression and anxiety disorders. There are various treatment options available for these conditions.

    Because the level of intelligence often is average or higher than average, many people with Asperger syndrome are able to function very well. They may, however, continue to have problems socialising with others through adulthood. Asperger syndrome cannot be prevented or cured. However, early diagnosis and treatment can improve function and quality of life.

    my son has struggled with things that should come easy to others he isnt good in social situations or crowds
    he has struggled with reading and writing
    but he has ploughed on and managed to get his public service level 1 yes its took him longer than many of the others in his class
    and No he wasnt drugged up to achieve this
    which is why im so very proud to say i have a child with Autism and if i drove id buy the sticker and support the charity to raise fund to raise awarness
    so more people understand, my son isnt a retard or special or disabled

    he is less abled to to do things at the same pace as everyone else thats all slow and steady wins the race for him he can do everything he puts his mind to just might take him longer thats all and one of the most caring loving and loyal people you could every wish to meet.

    Thanks for the informative post. Particularly about Asperger. Campaigns to raise awareness of these ‘hidden disabilities’ are a vital tool to educate people. Unfortunately, there is still a lot of ignorance out there and not helped by a tabloid media which is more interested in scare stories and witchunts to boost their sales. They unfortunately perpetuate the myths and negative stereotypes.

    Also unfortunately in the UK, under this tory regime, there seems to be a nasty undertone, that anyone and everyone is trying it on to get ‘free’ benefits. The car sticker I would assume is a proud grandparent informing the world that “autism” is a world away from how the media and film industry negatively portray autism and not something to be hidden away, or be ashamed of, like mental illness once was.

    #997322

    if u click the first link i posted then watch the video on the page with the volume about a quarter way up ure computer it well give you a small taste of being Autistic

    and yes some children can thrive in school but if u were to ask most children with it they have struggles to keep up

    #997343

    What next? having it printed on t-shirts . What I don’t agree with are car signs that say baby or children on board, would this make the driver behind you drive more carefully? what if you have a serious crash and that day the kids happen to be in school or wherever , the ambulance come to the scene wasting precious time looking for babies etc why they think might have been thrown out the car window!
    Getting back to the subject of autism or any other spectrum of this syndrome. I used to do speech therapy work with speech impaired children some had autism some had speech and language disorders being expressive and receptive.
    Some parents wanted a diagnosis some didn’t. What we would tell them is by having this diagnosis wont change the treatment. Statements of Educational needs i’m sure every parent who’s child has one, their needs are never fully met, its all down to funding’s and getting the right school placement not some sin bin dumping ground. We spend most of their school life fighting in their corner ! ive always said those who shout the loudest get results. Autism awareness week is held every year on the 2nd April so I don’t think the sticker was for that. Parents and grandparents are obviously proud of their children, you don’t have to go about it by waving a banner. We don’t all have a magic wand were we can fix everything, some of us are simply rewired differently, sadly its society and its prejudices speaking without knowledge, thought, or reason. :-)

    #997348

    Sophia, with ALL due respect, you simply miss the point. (Well thats how it appears to me). Really this is something that only a parent of a disabled child can understand, whether that disabilty be physical, or mental.

    Parents of such children really have to fight their corner for everything. They have to make a fuss to get a SEN so they can get the right education for their needs. They also have to fight discrimination and dissaproving looks from strangers. For example, an autistic child in a supermarket having a meltdown, is likely to be tutted and frowned at, and this will be accompianed by “why cant she control that child”?

    Those grandparents were simply expressing their great pride in their grandchild. Lots,of grandparents are proud of their grandchildren, its a grandparents perogitive.

    Also, sometimes such children may even wear a t shirt, that says, ‘im not naughty Im autistic’. Because if the child has a meltdown in public, it might make people think before labelling the child as a badly behaved brat.

    Does that make sense?

    #997349

    Makes a lot of sense to me, Tinsel, speaking as the dad of a child who had severe problems (not autism).

    #997352

    we are all entitled to our own opinions
    and we wont all agree thats for sure
    I would buy a car sticker mug tshirt wristbands etc
    some dont see the point or need for them
    we can simply agree to disagree

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