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i have experienced this. with 2 people. i deleted them both. if someone says do u mind if i tell so n so….i ok it….or even add them to convo. all depends what you are discussing…..if ur talking about someone you both know behind their back then its wrong. i had a convo a while ago with someone who i realised immediately was trying to get me to say something with the express intention of passing it on……i played along with them and sure enough certain extracts of the convo then apeared on these message boards. i chat occasionally to about 4 people here…….but there are only 2 people in my msn that i trust 100% to keep anything i tell them between ourselves.its on a par with so called trusted site owners reading peoples private pm/s……which has also been done to me….WRONG. [-X
I actually agree with fastcars here (take note of the date as I doubt it’ll happen again!) that it is pretty much the same thing.
I work with mostly women and they’re constantly talking about text messages they’ve recieved (or reading them out as they get them) or conversations they’ve had which I doubt the other person who they had the initial conversation with/had been swapping the text messages with would be especially happy about.
You may think it’s different, but as we say in these parts ‘It’s six and half a dozen’
@johnboy25 wrote:
I actually agree with fastcars here (take note of the date as I doubt it’ll happen again!) that it is pretty much the same thing.
I work with mostly women and they’re constantly talking about text messages they’ve recieved (or reading them out as they get them) or conversations they’ve had which I doubt the other person who they had the initial conversation with/had been swapping the text messages with would be especially happy about.
You may think it’s different, but as we say in these parts ‘It’s six and half a dozen’
agreed jon….i know for a fact one convo i once had in msn was being relayed down the phone to someone else. despicable.
It’s a matter of trust pats, you’d like to think that if you were talking to someone on a one to one basis then it’d stay as that unless you were quite happy for a third or fourth party to join in.
Can I just clarify one thing here as well? I’m not saying it’s right, I’m just saying that people talk and as such these things happen. We all gossip at some point and I think that’s where the cracks start to appear in the arguement. The above example for instance, you’d like to think it was private at the time but there is a strong chance that as soon as the conversation is over that the other person may sit down with someone else and rip the arse out of everything that’s just been said.
yup jon. i have had convos where people i know have been talked about. i have made a point of saying to them that it wasnt true or fair what they were saying.and in one case i said well why dont you let me add this person so you can air your greivances to them yourself and not thro me. and yes i have told the third person what was said because i thought it was grossly unfair the accusations being levelled at them. and if the gossiper hadnt the bottle to tell them themselves then i stated i would.
@fastcars wrote:
And what if somebody was actually reading a convo to a third party down the phone as it was being typed on the screen :?:
I would want to know why they felt they needed to do that for a start. Perhaps the conversation was funny? What an odd question.
Pats has freely admitted to cut and pasting to someone and gives her reasons for it. Pats, I assume you asked permission and were given it.
In response to my original questions, there were some very definite…”I would delete anyone who did it” comments (which I too have done). And people have been equally outraged by people even reading msn conversations to others on the phone. So it is an emotive subject.
But maybe it isn’t the act of cut and pasting that is the problem. Perhaps it is the intent behind it. Also perhaps the main problem with cut and pasting is that comments can be taken out of context. We know how good the newspapers are at misrepresenting what somone has said to them in an interview.
Is it ever okay to cut and paste?
Pats, I assume you asked permission and were given it.
yup. i was told *i ave no wish to speak with the di/ckhead..but feel free to tell them what i have said*
There are too many variables for a cut-and-dried answer. Although on the surface it would appear to be a bad thing, all really depends on who, what, how, why, where and when.
We can only live and then learn.
Ultimately each one of us is responsible for everything we say and do, and so it hardly matters does it ? If we throw words out like stones into a pond, then surely we are the authors of each resultant ripple.
Now I need to lie down, but please keep that in confidence.
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