[Laine]

Thanks Laney, i must say you are one of the nicest people i chatted to at length. hopefully no one else will get this barrage of abuse,
for yet another record i was NOT here to find a lasting friendship with a male, fgs have a little bit of nouse you idiots, im still grieving for my husband……..oh i wonder if thats actually allowed? is that all me me me again because of emotional pain, at least mine is real and not some made up abuse about others.
have i judged anyone?? called anyone names in any of my posts? don’t think so.

so there you have it, i dont need or want telling what to do, a little advice may have come in handy yes, but in a friendly way instead of you must not talk to this or that person, no when i put a photo on and i was sleighted for it and it quickly got out of hand to all out abuse, i take exception to that. i think anyone would, i mean in the bigger scheme of things what exactly is this kangaroo court accusing sentencing and hanging me for? being honest?….. for being brave enough to allow people to see a photo of me? because that is how it looks. so bloody childish and i “thought” wrongly that i could actually have a giggle here, a much needed one. seems i was wrong. and Laney see Moon she will give you my address for skype and we can continue to chat if you so wish.

[Laine]

was your choice to come here and continue to abuse annette, and please…….. don’t tell me what to do unless youre prepared to do it yourself!

[Laine]

i really dont need or want your opinions coathanger.
i am me.
you are you.
yes new, yes possibly naieve. still no reason to be bullied or called a whore or that i have VD.

i dont drink, does that mean i can call the majority alcoholics?
i dont cheat when i am in a relationship or a marriage, does that mean it is valid for me to call others who do cheap tarts and whores?
eh?
lets put the boot on the other foot shall we?
ok i dont struggle financially, (now) but do you work 12 hour days then on call for 4? do you sit and hold peoples hands who have been cruelly abused? or raped whether by their partners or a stranger, or stop people from committing suicide……? because that was my job. did you bring up two kids on your own and work while your husband/wife/partner was away sleeping with anything they could around the world? did you find time in between the death of parents death of a grandchild and a cancer scare to do an honours degree? ive worked damned hard all my life, i only gave up work because i nursed my husband til his death from cancer, and the last two years i have struggled with the legalities of the probate system living on my saving which i worked hard for. and there are far more people than me bragging about holidays, holiday homes, and who is sleeping with whom and how drunk they can get.
think on………………

[Laine]

for the record……….. people on here (mentioning no name) keep saying i am good mates with thin…………. untrue, yes i have said hello to him, yes we have eachothers phone number, do we keep in touch often ? no……… why? because i have real friends and he is an acquaintance i made in chat that to MY FACE has never been nasty, is it any business of mine what is said when i’m not around….no! people judge constantly, as i said (at risk of repeating myself) im just an ordinary middle aged woman, open hearted, friendly, and kind, it appears that people who want to BE ME are jealous and will find any way possible to put me down, sucks to be them in my opinion, i am a grown up.
and yes i was called a whore, in the room, whilst i was there, she who said it either has selective memory or is afraid to admit it. me a whore?? ive slept with two men in my life both were my husbands, not many can say that i fear? but i am single, and can and will do as i please get over the petty jealousy, and grow up.
no matter, its childish to keep sniping, ive been through a hell of a lot in my life and i’ll quote something
She who is without sin cast the first stone

ive never gossiped, ive related how upset i am to some, that even though i apologised to someone when i was told “oh dont speak to him he belongs to so n so” i got crap for it. i genuinely apologised……. appears that means nothing, except lets kick her a bit harder
well, i’m afraid i see a certain member in a new light and i pity her, i cant do the dont do as i do do as i tell you because its morally wrong. far be it from me to put people down but go look in a mirror i can with a clear conscience. i apologise when i am wrong, and i try to be nice to everyone but i take crap from no one especially those who cannot be bothered to get to know me.

[Laine]

Firstly……… Annette, i get on well with you, i have no problem with you, except for the incident with my photo which i may have taken the wrong way (as you must know syntax is one of the hardest forms of communication). i got past it, but somehow your “chat friends” decided that we were enemies, and one in particular wouldn’t or couldn’t stop with snide remarks. if you remember i even invited you out for lunch ? offer still stands.

a little about me…….. yes i have been open in the room about myself, there is nothing i have said that i wouldnt tell a stranger, so no one can hold any skeleton over me and give me something to reproach myself for, i don’t do behind the scenes gossiping or nastiness, it just isnt me.
my back was broken in 93, at the hands of a psychopath (my ex) i had to be resuscitated and was told i would never walk again, i proved them wrong with hard work. i divorced, walked away with nothing but my pride and started my life again. but! because of spinal cord damage i have a neurological disease called Adhesive Arachnoiditis, which behaves similarly to M.S.
Stress is a damning factor, too much stress and it flares up, and trust me it is pain that you would never believe or want to experience. i cope, imagine forever walking like you can feel broken glass in your feet, or that you have broken a bone and thats the type of pain i experience on a daily basis, so i tend to stay clear of stress. im proud of myself, ive coped with a hell of a lot, and put downs when theyre not meant in fun hurt! ive been abused all my life and certainly won’t accept it from strangers who neither know the effects of abuse or the pain it causes, lucky them!
im also proud that i can sail, paint, and play golf something i really should never have been able to do again, yes im fit, but the pain remains it will never go, and recently i was told that one day i may wake up completely paralysed from the waist down. so im making the most of what time i have. and i like to do it in a friendly way.
The likes of Joker (who isnt one) that feels the need to do what he does is no better than my ex husband. a cynical psychopath who feeds on hurting people, i wish him well, he must be a very lonely man and will probably stay that way

Who knows, maybe at some stage i will pop in and say hello, but for now i need to relax, get rid of the stress, and regroup my health.

i dont have skeletons in my cupboards, i dont hurt people, i dont abuse people, im just a nice ordinary middle aged woman. in the “real world” i am very much liked, you may say why use chat? i used chat because in the lonely times its company, i dont have people around me all day, people in my life also have lives separate from my own.

[Laine]

Thank you Martin, that is very kind of you, it is just sad more people like you arent part of chat then people like me wouldnt feel the need to leave what could be quite a fun place x

[Laine]

it is with deep heartfelt regret that i am deleting my photo

[Laine]

Dammit missed it!

[Laine]

how about something like this??

[Laine]

Wow Laney . you look younger than your other photo:-) must be doing something right

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