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This is a serious question for all girls who read these forums:
Situation:
You are at a bar, and a cute guy you have never met starts flirting with you. You hit it off with him and as the bar is closing he and few of his friends, (like…2 guys and 2 girls) are going back to his apartment to watch a movie. He gently takes your hand and askes you to come with them and watch the movie. You agree, and when you get to his place the two of you sit beside each other so that your thighs are touching. As the movie winds down and his friends start to go home, the two of you look into each others eyes, and start to kiss gently but with quite a bit of held back passion. The kissing becomes open mouth kissing, but doesn’t go any further than that, with his hands on your cheeks and massaging your hair. After this he takes you home and calls you not the next day but the day after that. As time goes on, the two of you become friends, and have a few more great kissing moments together, but he never really pursues a relationship with you and you just stay friends.
Question:
Would the above situation make you Angry? Like would you think of the guy as a jerk/selfish prat for never pursuing a full blown relationship? I understand there might be some disappointment, but would you refuse to be friends with him if he didn’t pursue a relationship with you?
ty sian… you answered very well….. :wink: :wink:
come on the rest…the truth..
I have a few guy friends that started out that way..we both realized we were better off as friends. One guy I really liked and to be honest it made me want him more :)
I kinda felt bad at first like I did something wrong
or wasnt good enough..thankyou very much for your thoughts on this ladies…you seem like a good bunch with your emotions going in the right direction….
If I really fancied him then I would want a bit of straight talking to find out whether he wanted me just a sister type friend or as a sexual friend and then take it from there.
You would think that this would be quite a simple question to answer; I use to think it was but now I am not so sure.
If you know that the person you want to ask out is in a relationship and they show no interest in you I think you have no place in asking them out. In that respect I have always felt that someone in a relationship is “off limits”. At the same time if you feel that they’re unhappy in their relationship I still believe you have no right in asking them out.
However the line blurs when the person in the relationship shows keen interest in you. (Which happens to be the case for me at the moment, at least I think it is).
If someone in a relationship is showing interest in you, what is appropriate behaviour on your behalf? The answer can be somewhat clouded if you of course already have feelings for them yourself.
soz jooly…but you did ask… :roll: :roll:
“in a relationship” – Married or just seeing someone?
not married……..mmmm…he said… :roll: :roll:
i would too..if you’re both attracted to each other and he’s not happy in his relationship …atleaast let him now how you feel..you never know what may become of it.
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