just the girls

@fletch wrote:

This is a serious question for all girls who read these forums:

Situation:

You are at a bar, and a cute guy you have never met starts flirting with you. You hit it off with him and as the bar is closing he and few of his friends, (like…2 guys and 2 girls) are going back to his apartment to watch a movie. He gently takes your hand and askes you to come with them and watch the movie. You agree, and when you get to his place the two of you sit beside each other so that your thighs are touching. As the movie winds down and his friends start to go home, the two of you look into each others eyes, and start to kiss gently but with quite a bit of held back passion. The kissing becomes open mouth kissing, but doesn’t go any further than that, with his hands on your cheeks and massaging your hair. After this he takes you home and calls you not the next day but the day after that. As time goes on, the two of you become friends, and have a few more great kissing moments together, but he never really pursues a relationship with you and you just stay friends.

Question:

Would the above situation make you Angry? Like would you think of the guy as a jerk/selfish prat for never pursuing a full blown relationship? I understand there might be some disappointment, but would you refuse to be friends with him if he didn’t pursue a relationship with you?

Dont try understand the infinite workings of the female mind friend, see they wont let something like makeing sense stand in their way, u cant win!! :wink:

@~*Lucky*~ wrote:

and I thought you were saving yourself for me

Best thing to do is be honest about you both want… that way you both know where you stand. If someone was just wanting an occassional snog knowing that i like them then yup, sorry, but I would prob be p*ssed off (hey at least Im honest).

Hope it works out for you hun, you deserve no less than the best xxx

…unless it was u wanting the occational snog…?

@fletch wrote:

Question:

Would the above situation make you Angry? Like would you think of the guy as a jerk/selfish prat for never pursuing a full blown relationship? I understand there might be some disappointment, but would you refuse to be friends with him if he didn’t pursue a relationship with you?

Hmmm….sounds like a problem someone a guy I know has as well…… :?

If it is clear from the start that it’s not goig to be a full blown relationship, then what you are describing doesn’t seem like a problem.

The problem only occurs if the other person is looking for more – in which case it’s best not to go there or it will just frustrate them.